NJ MEDIATOR - New Jersey Divorce & Family Mediation Services | Easier way to divorce. http://njmediator.org New Jersey Divorce & Family Mediation Services Easier way to divorce Mon, 27 Feb 2012 17:20:48 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 What is the good of a good divorce? http://njmediator.org/what-is-the-good-of-a-good-divorce/ http://njmediator.org/what-is-the-good-of-a-good-divorce/#comments Mon, 27 Feb 2012 17:20:48 +0000 njadmin http://njmediator.org/?p=210 Being a mediator for over 12 years, I often ask myself a question: what is the “good” of a good divorce and why is good ending valuable even when couples don’t have children and presumably will never see each other again following their divorce? What can mediation give to couples besides the obvious benefits of being much less expensive and time consuming?  I believe that good ending can bring forth a good beginning. Couples in mediation, while negotiating over their divorce agreements and trying to find reasonable compromises, often reflect on what went wrong and why. This causes them to contemplate on how they can change their situation in the future for the better. If they can sort out some of their issues while they are in mediation, they are less likely to repeat the same mistakes again. To me this is a huge benefit

One of my clients once said to me on their last mediation session: I feel like we could have stayed married if we’d communicated with each other as we do now in mediation.  I thought to myself that they could have stayed married should they have learned to communicate earlier and thus become a people they are transforming into now by getting a divorce.

]]> http://njmediator.org/what-is-the-good-of-a-good-divorce/feed/ 0 Financial advisors can help prevent divorces http://njmediator.org/financial-advisors-can-help-prevent-divorces-2/ http://njmediator.org/financial-advisors-can-help-prevent-divorces-2/#comments Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:06:20 +0000 admin http://njmediator.org/?p=197 Couples who disagree about money once a week are twice as likely to divorce as those who disagree once a month or less. And there can be added difficulties for couple who are at least $10,000 in debt…and once in which one spouse disapproves of how the other handles money. What to do: Focus on both the financial and relationship issues. On the money side, consider working with a credit counselor-find one through the National Foundation for Credit Counseling (www.nfcc.org). On the relationship side, try a marital-education program from PREP (www.prepinc.com) or PAIRS Foundation (www.pairs.com).

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